Sexual assault is no joking matter. For years, women have spoken out against this incident as they are the most affected gender from the case. But it does not mean that men cannot suffer from it either. College student Charlie Jeer shares his own experience of being groped due to his job as a bouncer and how severe it gets at times. The 19-year-old man decided to finally share his story after enduring them all this time.
"So many guys and girls get sexually assaulted working the doors, and I don't think it gets spoken about at all," he spoke in his video.
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"I was told, going into the industry, that this might happen, but I had no idea it would be so regular."
The video that has over 1.5 million views continues, "I've only been doing security for the last year, and in that time, there are countless occasions where women have come up to me and attempted to unzip my clothes or grabbed me sexually."
"I don't feel like a victim because in working security you do have some kind of control over the situation."
"If a woman's grabbing me, I feel strong enough to get her off me, which makes me feel like less of a victim."
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"You have people working with you; there are cameras on you," he added. "But at the same time, the touching is unwanted."
Charlie has a lot of his own share of stories and one of them was when he got grabbed on the bum three times by the same woman before she's chucked out. He continued sharing that he's working at an event in Norwich and was asking people to go down, including this one woman whom he asked for repeatedly.
"By this point, I'd been walking through a sea of women for the last two hours who'd been touching me. I'd say I got touched over ten times that night - in ways that I didn't want to be touched."
He asked this woman to come down for the last time. Charlie said, "While this was happening, the same woman who had previously been touching me walked around and grabbed my bum for the third time."
"At that stage, I just got fed up. I turned around and said 'it's time to go now.' She obviously wasn't very happy about that."
Before she was out, Charlie warned her it could be reported as sexual assault and she snorted, "Who cares about sexual assault?"
Charlie felt the severity of that sentence, "That's what stuck with me about the situation and made me post about it. If she thinks that, how many other women are thinking 'who cares about male sexual assault?'"
"How many people, in general, are thinking 'who cares about sexual assaults on nights out? To make it worse, she snuck back in, and she looked at me with a smug look on her face."
The rude woman got removed again right after, but Charlie was already pissed to see that she dared come back after what she'd done.
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"It's the fact that people will go and forget their morals that they practice in day-to-day life. For people to forget about these values and act in this way is just not right. Working in this industry, you can go around and have a laugh with people, but there is a boundary that can be overstepped."
"I made the videos to start a conversation and to get people to reassess their ways of thinking. The reception I got was largely positive but there were still quite a lot of guys who said stuff like 'I need to get this job.'"
"I felt like the response to me, as a man, was 'I'm jealous' and that I was lucky to have this done to me."
His experience resonated with many people, but despite that, among those 1.5 million views are men who "envied" his job.
@charliejeer Reply to @carriepatersonxx not claiming I’m some victim or anything like that FYI ##secuirty ##doorman ##clubbing ##SA
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Charlie continued, "The post wasn't necessarily meant to raise awareness among women, even though there clearly are women who think this way otherwise this wouldn't be happening. But there are a massive number of men who think men are lucky to be touched and don't support other men who get touched without consent.
"I wouldn't want to single out one gender. Just generally, there are people out there who don't care about men being sexually assaulted.
"The response was divided. Most of the people who have privately messaged have been nice."
In a different video, he shared how a pair of women were leaving the club early after having enough drinks.
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He shared, "So as one of them walked past me, they came up to me and were like 'Ah, yeah, what's your Instagram?' And I said to them: "I don't really give my Instagram out like that". Whatever, but they kept asking and kept going."
They kept insisting and crossed the line, "And then, as I look away, boom. This ting just grabs my wood. No hesitation, nothing like that. Full pelt grips my wood up. So obviously, I was like 'What the f*** are you doing?' I pushed her off, told her she got to go or whatever. She left."
"But then, the next weekend, she comes back with all her friends. I'm like, 'Look, you sexually assaulted me. Same thing. If you'd done that to a girl, you wouldn't get let in again. You done it to me, you're never coming in.'"
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Charlie does boxing as a side-hobby which is part of the reason he feels confident about his strength of being able to protect himself.
But the incident shed some light on what could happen to men as well and how severely ignored sexual assault cases can be.
Charlie keeps his job as a doorman as it allows him to work and study for his economics major while networking with club owners and other employees.
